I used to be irritable to a fault: Everything and everyone irritated me. At the end of the day I found myself angry for reasons that seemed important at the time. But when I sat down and prayed, God (love) helped me identify the root cause of my anger and to develop a different perspective. I remember listening to a sermon from a preacher in which he reminded the congregation that it was not in God’s will for us to fight every battle that presented itself. What appeared to be an attack on me was simply a distraction from my true purpose. More importantly, my negative attitude only alienated the people who were dear to me.
Anger definitely has its place. But I encourage you to do what I have learned to do. Store up your anger for what is important in life: like when someone in your household deletes one of your DVR recordings to make space for their own. Or when you ask for light butter on your baked potato, but when you get it, there is a thick dollop of the artery blocker perched right on top of the potato. Now that is a reason to start flipping over tables. Ok, I’m kidding (not really).
I will put my facetiousness to the side and get back to really addressing anger. I am not saying that it is a bad thing. In fact, anger is an important emotion that lets us know we have been harmed in some way and need to be healed. But keep in mind that anger is typically a secondary emotion used as a defense mechanism when you cannot handle or understand your feelings. If you are easily angered, take some time to sit down with someone who you trust, respect and can be objective so that you can sort through your feelings. This does not have to be a drawn out therapy session. The goal is to practice identifying your true feelings, which will, in turn, help you make choices from a place of pure love.